Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about why people don’t reach their goals and the common mistakes that they make over and over again.
I will be the first to share that I have flaws and I don't get everything right, However, I am intentional about growing and evolving each day and I'm going to teach you what I've learned about goal-setting.
Believe it or not, the mistakes that you consistently make that you're aren't giving much thought to are preventing you from getting stuff done.
I read a really good book called The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson and I want to share this quote with you...
"Simple little disciplines that, done consistently over time, will add up to the very biggest accomplishments."
The key to accomplishing your goals is consistency, discipline and taking small steps every single day.
The question I have for you is,"What are you willing to give up in order to achieve your goals?"
11 Common Mistakes People Make When Setting Goals
Mistake #1: Your goals are in your head and not on paper
If your goals are only in your head, then all you have is fantasies. We all live very busy lives so it's easy to forget what we want to get done if it's not written down. Writing your goals down on paper makes them more real and not to get all woo-woo on you but you're letting the universe know what you want to accomplish.
Simple fix: Write your goals down in your notebook or journal.
Mistake #2: Your goals aren't visible
You created your vision board and wrote your goals down, but you never made them visible. How do you expect to reach your goals if you don't know what you're working on? It’s super easy to forget what you ate for lunch yesterday so naturally. you’ll forget the goals you created in the beginning of the year.
Simple fix: Whether you're using a vision board or you create a goal list, post them in a spot where you have no choice but to see them every day.
Mistake #3: You’re trying to do too many things
This is a big one. You’ve convinced yourself that you can do it all, but yet you’re getting nothing done. You have so many unfinished projects you've lost count. You're setting yourself up for failure by trying to do 100 things at once.
Simple fix: Focus on completing one goal at a time. When you focus on less, you're able to get more done.
Mistake #4 You never had a roadmap or plan
Simply saying you want to do something and actually doing it is two different things. If you're serious about reaching your goals you need to map out how you're going to accomplish them. You would never go to an unknown place without a map or a GPS because you'll be lost. Think of your goals the same way, you need a plan of action in order to make it happen.
Simple fix: Make a list of your top 3 goals you want to get done. Next, break down everything that you will need to do in order to achieve your goals. Finally, add the action steps to your planner or google calendar and get to work.
Mistake #5 You hang out with people who don’t have goals
You become like the five people you spend the most time with. Do the people you hang out with aspire to do more in their life? Do you have friends that are passionate about reaching their goals? Your circle should consist of people who add value to your life and push you to be better. If your friends lack ambition or have no desire to pursue anything positive in their life and you spend the majority of your time with them, trust me you'll end up just like them.
Simple fix: Connect with goal oriented people. Go to network events. Check out meetup.com. Join Facebook groups. Sign up for the girl be free weekly notes that will inspire and motivate you to take action.
Mistake #6 Your goals are unclear
When you create vague goals you're setting yourself up for failure because you don't have a plan on how you're going to achieve your goals. Simply saying you want to go back to school without a clear vision on how it's going to happen will never be achieved. You have to be specific on how you will make your goals become real.
Simple fix: Create SMART goals. Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, Timely
Mistake #7 Your goals are not your own
Are the goals you set for yourself, goals that you want to do or did someone else suggest them to you? I remember a friend telling me that because I enjoyed reading so much I should become a librarian. So I enrolled to get my MLS degree only to realize that library science wasn't for me. This was a life lesson I learned the hard way with student loan debt to follow. Make sure the goals you set for yourself are your own and something you want to get done.
Simple fix: Take time and figure out what you want to achieve in your lifetime. Set goals that align with your purpose and the vision you have for your life.
Mistake #8 You don’t have an accountability partner
If you’re the only person in the world who knows about your goals, who's going to encourage you not to give up when you feel like quitting? You need someone to check in with and hold you accountable to do what you say you’re going to do.
Simple fix: Find a goal-oriented friend that will help you stay on track or hire a coach to help you reach your goals.
Mistake #9 You don’t believe you have what it takes
Self-doubt and fear are holding you back. You say you want to achieve your goals but deep down inside you don’t believe you can do it. Your lack of belief is the result of you having so many unfinished goals because you're constantly starting over and never completing anything.
Simple fix: Shift your mindset. Start reciting affirmations until you believe that your goals are possible.
Mistake #10 You quit too soon
It takes time to get things done. There's no such thing as overnight success. When things get hard or don't go as well as you plan, you tend to give up or quit. Life happens. You will fail. You will make mistakes. Things will go wrong. Just because you're not seeing results as quick as you would like doesn't mean you have to give up.
Simple fix: Don’t allow the pressures of life cause you to quit your goals. Understand that you’re on a journey and you will have ups and downs. Accept it and keep it moving.
Mistake #11 You’re easily distracted
You know your weaknesses better than anyone. Distractions lead to procrastination. If you're spending more time on Facebook than you are on your goals then you need to log off so you can get things done.
Simple fix: Turn off the TV and unplug from social media and carve out time to work on your goals. Read books, take courses anything that will help you get closer to your goals.
Now that you know the most common mistakes people make when setting goals, what are you going to do differently?
If you continue on the path that you’re on, you’ll end up being in the exact same spot this time next year. How does that make you feel?
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What are some common mistakes you make when setting goals?