The first step towards being free is understanding that your needs matter and in order to live a more fulfilling life you must make YOU a priority. More often than not we as women tend to put our needs on the back burner so we can help everyone else but ourselves.
And you know what ends up happening, years go by and you look up one day and realize that you never spent time on you.
Why do we as women think it’s ok to nurture and take care of everyone else but themselves?
I read this great article where Michelle Obama talked about the importance of self care and how we as women get so busy caring for everyone else that we put our priorities low on the list. “One of the things that I want to model for my girls is investing in themselves as much as they invest in others.”
Yes, she’s absolutely right! You need to consider yourself as an investment and always look for ways to better care for yourself. Because you know what, nobody else is going to do it for you.
And let me say this, you’re not being selfish or inconsiderate because you decide to care for your needs and figure out what you want for your life. So don’t put unnecessary pressure or guilt on yourself because you decide to choose you.
I want the women of the BeFree Community to start dreaming again and discovering what makes you come alive and do what you’re most passionate about.
I don’t want your life to pass by and you miss out on living because you neglect giving back to yourself. I want you to start saying yes to you first.
Putting Your Needs First Means...
You start saying "no" to others so you can say "yes" to your dreams and goals
You discover your purpose in life
You spend quality time with you
You figure out what makes you genuinely happy
You create a healthy balance that feels good to you inside and out
You acknowledge that your needs are important
Now, I would never tell you to neglect your responsibilities in life, but what I am saying is that your life deserves as much attention as you're giving to everything else.
We’re giving all of our time to our partners, kids, jobs, church, family, etc and by the time we start thinking about ourselves we have no energy left. And the result of this is, you don’t know who you are or what you want because you haven’t taken the time to care for yourself.
I know this to be true because this was me for a LONG time.
On the outside I looked like I had it all together, college educated, husband, house, two kids, “good” job, but internally I was dying. I lost a sense of self once I became a wife and mother and I no longer knew who I was.
As I type this I have tears in my eyes because I remember this time in my life like it was yesterday and I wanted so bad to know my purpose and feel like my life had meaning.
Self care should be a priority for all of us. We as women have to start saying YES to ourselves.
My challenge for you is to take time to figure out what you want for your life and then be brave enough to live the life that you deeply desire.
I’m so passionate about helping women understand that in order to “be free” they need to realize that their needs matter and that it's ok to choose you first.
How do you practice self-care?