You start again…
You stop again..
You repeat this cycle over and over and over again. You tell yourself each time, THIS time is going to be different but you don’t DO anything different. You have lots of goals and projects that you want to get done but you always seem to quit before you ever complete anything.
Every time you come up with a "new" idea you get so excited and you start telling everybody about what you're going to do. But as soon as the excitement wears off, which it usually does within the first week or so, you’ve already giving up and started on the next idea.
Let me tell you about a good friend of mine who we’ll call Lisa. Lisa's been wanting to go back to school for what seems like forever but for some reason, something always comes up and she puts it off. She would tell herself after things settle down at work, or once her son got a little older or when she has more time then she would go back to school.
After years of wanting to get back in school and me staying in her ear she finally decides to enroll in classes. I tell her life will always be busy and at some point you just have to go for it. Plus her son had just started preschool and work was less stressful so it felt like the perfect time.
Lisa's so happy because she’s finally doing something for her and that alone feels really good. She's always putting everyone else's needs before her own and often felt guilty about doing something for herself. She completes her first semester with a 3.5. Woot! Woot!
Then life happens… her job needs her to pick up more hours at work because it’s a busy time at the office. Initially she’s upset because there’s no way she’ll be able to stay in school, work extra hours and be there for her family. She tells herself she'll only sit out for one semester plus she could use the extra money to save for a family vacation that she’s been wanting to take.
But guess what… 2 years has now passed by and Lisa is still not back in school nor has she taken that family vacation. She’s also started and stopped many other projects along the way. She's created a blog, took dance classes (she loves to dance), started writing a book and even tried to lose weight.
She struggles with completing anything and she always quits. She’s frustrated with herself because she’s tired of feeling like a failure.
Can you relate to Lisa?
Many women just like her struggle with following through because they want to act on every idea that they have not realizing it’s better to focus on completing one thing at a time.
When was the last time you sat down and had a heart to heart with yourself and thought about why do you quit everything you start?
Is it because you fear failure and you could not imagine trying something and it doesn’t work and then you waste your time and energy for starting in the first place?
Is it because you fear success, that if you reach a certain level and you can’t keep up with the demand, you’ll end up failing yourself and others.
Do you feel like you’re not good enough and you don’t have what it takes to complete anything?
Do you lack support from friends and family and feel like you couldn’t possibly move forward without their help?
You’re constantly on Facebook looking at what other people have and how happy they are and you start feeling sorry for yourself. You allow that little voice inside your head to tell you all the reasons why you should quit and instead of fighting against it, you allow that voice to win.
But the thing is you don’t want to feel this way. You’re tired of quitting. You want to be genuinely happy and excited about your life.
You need help! Ok, let's get into it!
10 practical steps on how to start what you finish
Make a list: Do a brain dump and get all of your brilliant ideas out of head and down on paper or an open document on your computer. From the smallest idea to the biggest, no idea is too silly whatever it is write it down.
Choose one thing: I know, I know you want to do it all but that’s the reason why you can’t get anything done. So after you’ve completed the brain dump, look at your list and choose one thing that you want to complete and will make a positive impact in your life.
Give your project a deadline: Now that you’ve decided on what you will work on, set a date and time frame on when you want to complete your project. Actually, I’m going to help you out. :-) For the next 30 days I want you to focus solely on one thing, yes you read right, I want you to commit to one project for the next 30 days.
Break your project down: Whatever you decide to work on you have to break the goal down into doable action steps or little chunks that you can manage. Make a list of everything you’ll need to do over the next 30 days. You know yourself better than anyone else so don’t put too much on your plate, focus on what you can do each day. Planning is EVERYTHING!!
Don’t start anything new: No matter how tempting it will be, don’t start any new projects. When you get an idea and believe me you will, write it down in a notebook and revisit it in the future.
Know yourself: Think about what motivates you to get started; what helps you get in your zone; when are you most productive; how do you work best. Carve out 30 minutes to an hour per day to work on your goal/project. This may mean you have to wake up a little earlier, go to bed later, or use your lunch break to get your work done.
Imagine yourself completing your goal: I don’t want to get all woo woo on you but I want you to visualize yourself finally finishing what you start. Think about how you want to feel at the end of the 30 days.
Ask for help: A closed mouth don’t get fed. Get out of your feelings and stop feeling like you don’t need help because you do. Find an accountability partner, mentor, coach whoever, just get someone in your corner that will motivate and encourage you.
Pause and reflect: I suggest journaling your experience after and during the 30 days and take time to reflect on what went well, what didn’t go well and any opportunities for growth. Also, think about is this a project that you want to continue, why or why not.
Celebrate your win: Woot Woot! Now it’s time to share with your friends what you’ve been working on. Celebrate your major accomplishment and keep pushing forward.
It's time for a change
Listen, it’s time to get out of your own way and finally make some positive changes in your life. It’s time to acknowledge that you have a problem completing what you start and stop repeating the same behaviors.
For the next 30 days I want you to push yourself out of your comfort zone and do the work. I want you to promise yourself that THIS time will be different because you now have the right tools on how to take action.
I want help you get started so I created a freebie for you, which is a self contract for you to print, sign, date and post it up. It's a promise that you're making to yourself that for the next 30 days you will stay focused on your one goal.
You're not waiting for a new month or new week, you're starting today. Please know it will not be easy because you're pushing yourself out of your comfort zone in order to make lifestyle changes.
If you need help don't hesitate to reach out to your accountability partner and don’t settle for not knowing something that’s why we have Google and You Tube, so there’s no excuse. For once in your life I want you to complete something. I want you to finish what you start.
What's your plan to finish your projects this year?