If you’ve been reading this blog for a little while then you know I’m big on you having an accountability partner in order to get stuff done. I honestly feel the number one reason that I’ve been able to get so much accomplished in a short amount of time is because I have a team of people holding me accountable.
Last week I shared “why” you needed an accountability partner and now I’m going share some things to consider when choosing someone to work with.
First I want to tell you about a mistake I made when I chose my BFF to be my accountability partner.
One day we were chatting on the phone and I told her I needed someone to hold me accountable because it was hard for me to get things done on my own.
I vented to her that I was frustrated because I was procrastinating all the time and could never stick to what I said I was going to do.
I told her I really wanted to get things done and I knew the only way for me to be productive is to have someone on my back checking in on me.
She happily agreed to help me.
Weeks and weeks went by and I had fallen into my same old pattern of procrastinating and wasting time.
I realized that I had not heard from my “accountability partner.”
When we finally talked, I said “girl what happen to you being my accountability partner?”
She said, "OMG I totally forgot about that!"
We laughed it off and both agreed I needed to find someone else to help me because her life was too busy.
Lesson learned… Don’t choose someone just because they’re your friend. Find someone that can commit to helping you move forward.
At the time my BFF agreed to be my partner, she was newly married with a family, working FT and trying to launch her own business.
I know what you're thinking, we both should’ve known better.
Her intentions were good, but her time was already stretched too thin for her to help me.
7 things I wish someone would have told me about choosing an accountability partner
- You can have multiple accountability partners or groups for various things. Be sure that you work with people that are accomplished in an area that you want to grow in. Don't just pick somebody just because, choose someone that can really help you.
You and your partner don’t have to be in the same city. You can connect with someone online and meet via Skype or Uber. That’s the beauty of technology you can have an accountability partner anywhere in the world and build a great relationship.
Find out what communication outlet is best for you and your accountability partner. Do you prefer email or text, Skype or Facetime, maybe you prefer meeting in person, or a mix of them all.
Decide on a day/time that works best for both of you, then schedule the date in your calendar. This can be the same day/time each week or if you need to switch it up that’s cool too. Always keep the communication open.
Prepare in advance. Send your partner a list of goals that you’re working on so when you do meet you can jump right in without wasting time.
If you recognize that you and your partner(s) are not vibing, don’t hesitate to let them know how you feel. If necessary you may have to find someone else.
Always be open and honest and express to your partner your strengths and weaknesses.
Benefits of working with an accountability partner
- You have someone holding you responsible to do what you said you were going to do
- You have a listening ear to brainstorm and bounce ideas off of
- You have someone to help you solve a problem that you can’t seem to solve for yourself
- You have positive encouragement and support while on your journey
No matter who you are, you need someone in your corner to help you stay on task. Celebrities have coaches to help them so why shouldn't you have someone too.
Procrastination is a beast and if I didn't have people in my life to report to on a regular basis, I know for a fact I wouldn't get a lot of stuff done.
I want you to think about this… how many times have you made goals and quit them? No, seriously I want you to take a few minutes and think about how many times you've quit something.
If you're like me then that's a pretty big number.
Now think about how much further along in life you could be if you only would have stuck to those goals you originally set.
Since launching my business, I've consistently reached the goals I've set for myself. I've hired coaches, took courses and read tons of books and I know what needs to be done in order to create the life you want.
I want to challenge you to find an accountability partner this week so you can finish the year strong. I don’t care if you hire a coach or find a friend, but find someone that will help you move forward and go to the next level.
What steps will you take this week to find an accountability partner?