The negative words that you tell yourself over and over again are holding you back and preventing you from being happy and living a fulfilled life. Your negative mindset and outlook on life is keeping you stuck.

Believe it or not your words have power, your words mean something and your thoughts matter. The negative self-talk that you have with yourself when no one else is around is hurting you and making you feel sad inside.  

You become what you believe. Let that sit with you for a minute.

If you believe you're worthless than guess what, that's what you will become. If you tell yourself that you will always be broke, then you'll never have money. 

You have to change the conversation that you're having with yourself in order to start seeing positive changes in your life. 


My life didn't change until I changed the way I thought about myself. For a period in my life, I felt like I wasn't smart enough, good enough, or worthy enough to really live the life I wanted to. Some things that had happened in my childhood made me devalue myself and I dealt with a minor case of depression. After I had my children, I realized that I could not continue feeling like that.  I made a decision that I wanted more for my life and that I was responsible for my thoughts and how my life would turn out. I started affirming the woman I wanted to become and that's when I started seeing my life change for the better.


“I’m not good enough.”

This was something I mentally said and believed about myself for a long time. I allowed my past to define my future and I felt like I wasn’t good enough to live beyond my current situation. It took time to build my self-confidence and realize that I had the power to change what I thought about myself. 

Your past does not determine who you are or what you're going to be. You don't have to accept the negative things that people have said to you as your truth. There's is greatness in you and you are good enough. 

BeFree Tip: Be kind to you. Speak positive affirmations daily.


“I’m a failure.”

Failure doesn't feel good and sometimes it makes you feel like giving up all together. However, mistakes happen and failure is a part of life. You will not win at everything. Your life is not over because you failed and things didn't turn out the way you intended. You don't have to settle for mediocrity. Life is about learning, growing and moving forward. 

Many successful people that we all know have failed before we ever knew about their successes. Oprah, Walt Disney, Sidney Poitier, Vera Wang just to name a few. Click here to read how they overcame their failures. 

BeFree Tip: Decide that no matter what happens in your life, you will not accept failure. Sit down and have a heart to heart with yourself and acknowledge the part you played and what you plan to do differently. 


“I am too old.”

I hear this one all the time from women who are over 30 and feel like they've missed out on life and it’s too late to start over. I didn't discover my purpose until a few years ago and it wasn't until I got laid off from my job that I decided to choose myself and do what I was passionate about. It's never too late to start living the life you want. So what you're 39 and you feel like you don't know who you are. You don't have to stay in that state of mind. Make a decision that you will spend time this year gaining clarity on who you are and what you want for your life. 

I’m in my mid 30's and I'm excited about the direction my life is going in. I have peace of mind knowing that I’m walking in my purpose and I’m mentally and emotionally healthy. 

BeFree Tip:

Stop beating yourself up over what you did or didn’t do in your life. Think about what you can do today to start moving forward. The 14 Days of Shifting Your Mindset Workbook is the perfect resource to help you get started. 

“I need to wait until I get everything together.”

You will never have it all figured out. If you're waiting on everything to work out perfectly before you start making positive changes in your life, you're wasting your time.  You say stuff to yourself like, when the kids get a little older, when I get more money, or the big one, when I have more time then I'll make time for me. These are excuses that you're making to yourself that's causing you to procrastinate. 

BeFree Tip: Stop waiting on the perfect time and make a decision that every day you will commit to making small positive changes in your life.  


“I’m not smart enough.”

You know why you don't feel smart enough, because you're not taking the time to educate yourself. You're watching TV and scrolling through Facebook envying other people's lives instead of focusing on your own. Successful people do what unsuccessful people won't do. They read books, attend workshops and seminars and focus on self-development.

We all have the same 24 hours in the day and for the most part we have access to the same resources. The local library, Google & Youtube are my BFF's. I refuse to accept not knowing something when there's tons of free resources literally available at my finger tips. Don't accept being average like everybody else, challenge yourself to be different. Read and learn all you can and nourish your mind with information that will make you a better person. 

BeFree Tip: Read a book per month. Whatever it is that you want to know know more about, commit to spending 15 minutes per day learning something new.


Let's Chat! 

What kind of negative self-talk do you need to stop saying to yourself?