I have to admit I wasn’t always as positive as I am today. There was a time when I was all in my feelings and consumed with fear and negative thoughts.
I lacked self-confidence, self-esteem and my biggest mistake was thinking I was not good enough to fulfill my purpose in life.
It was hard for me to see my full potential because my negative thoughts kept me stuck.
I had to get tired of being tired in order to change my life.
One thing I like to pride myself on is when I make up my mind to do something, you can guarantee that I’m going to get it done.
I understood that there was more to life than the life I was living and I just needed to know the first steps I needed to take in order to shift my mindset.
I was tired of making excuses and blaming others, it was time for me to put on my big girl panties and take responsibility for my own life.
When you make up your mind that you want your life to be different, you’ll commit to doing whatever it takes to change it.
Step # 1: Read More Books
I use to spend hours everyday reading celebrity gossip blogs and reading fiction books. The problem with this is that I had no idea what my purpose was, but I could tell you everything about what the latest celebrity was up to.
And today I'm slightly embarrassed that I consumed tons of useless information about celebrities that I don't "really" know.
When I started my journey to being free I knew I had to guard what I let in my spirit. I started reading tons of personal development books and following inspirational bloggers. Oh and I watched a lot of Auntie Oprah. :)
I want you to turn off the TV, get off of social media and read more books. I want you to read books with substance and that will stimulate you mentally. Challenge yourself to read one book per month, trust me even with a busy schedule, it’s doable.
Leaders are readers. :)
- In order to read one book per month divide the number of pages in the book by the amount of days in the month. The solution is how many pages you need to read each day in order to finish the book in a month.
Step #2: Start Journaling
Writing in my journal has been my therapy and has helped me heal from my past. I’ve been journaling since I was 14 years old and it's amazing to see how much I've grown year after year.
When I go back and read old journals it's hard to read my words when I was in a very dark place, but then I praise God for where I am today.
I want to encourage you to stop keeping your feelings and thoughts bottled up inside and release them on paper. Journaling will help you grow spiritually, emotionally and mentally.
Writing will also help you deal with stress, anxiety and cope with depression.
There is so much power when you begin to get your thoughts out of your head and down on paper.
- Buy a pretty journal with inspiring words that will motivate you to write
- Spend 5 -10 minutes a day and write either when you first wake up in the morning and/or before you go to bed at night
Step # 3 Check Your Circle
I'm proud to say that I don't have anyone in my close circle of friends that drains me or has negative energy.
If your inner circle consist of friends or family who are always negative, they have no goals or ambitions, or if there is no substance to your conversations then you may want consider changing your circle.
I'm not saying you have to stop hanging out with your friends all together, but what I am saying is that you need to limit how much time you spend with them.
Connect with people online and/or offline that will encourage and motivate you to be better.
I'm going to keep it 100% real with you, you're going to have to delete people from your phone, unfollow and unfriend anyone who adds no value to your life.
If you're committed to changing your life, everyone will not be able to go on your journey and you need to guard your spirit from anything or anyone that distracts from your purpose.
- Check out meetup.com to find people with similar interest as you
- Make a list of friends/family and list how they add value to your life. If there is nothing positive that you can write down, then consider the quality of the relationship.
- 200+ AMAZING Black Bloggers. Check out this site for inspiring blogs to follow. (hint I made the list :)
These are three simple steps to help you begin to shift your mindset if you have no clue where to start. I created the 14 Days of Shifting Your Mind Challenge Workbook to help you go a little deeper with releasing your negative thoughts in order to embrace positivity.
Your current situation does not define your whole life, you can make changes at any time by creating new habits and commit to making lifestyle changes. I'll be honest with you, it won't be easy, but if you're really ready to change your life, it's will definitely be worth it.
What's one step that you will take today to begin to shift your mindset?